It's surprising how many people have asked me what I think of the Madonna adoption because "well, you know, you've done it"... I don't think our adoption and Madonna's have much in common. We live in different countries with different laws and adopted from different countries with different laws. And believe it or not, Madonna has not called me to discuss her adoption - the nerve of her!!lol To the degree that I know anything about this adoption, I'll assume that the usual procedures were followed (homestudies, police checks, etc) and I hope that this child has found a home where he will be loved and cherished.
While I don't know enough about Madonna's adoption to comment on it per se, the one thing I want to comment on is all the hoopla over this child having a living biological father. Well folks, before you get all up in arms about Madonna taking away this man's child, assuming that what Madonna said on the Oprah show is correct, the child was left at an orphanage at the age of 2 weeks and no family members had any contact with the orphanage or the child thereafter. Isn't that most often the case in international adoption? For instance, odds are quite good that our daughter has a living biological mother and father in China (and quite possibly sibling(s) as well)... I think that's the case for most of our babies...most of them DO have (a) living biological parent(s). This whole Madonna mess seems to insinuate that "orphans" have no parents, well, in many/most cases when it comes to international adoption, the birth parent(s) is/are alive and the child found him/herself in an orphanage for reasons other than death of parent(s). In fact, most North American adoptions are also of children with living birth parents...so I don't get this furor over "but he has a father"... think about it for a moment, most adopted children do have living birth parents, be it a mother and/or father in China who felt, due to whatever circmstances, that they couldn't keep their precious child or a single mother in America who participates in an open adoption - all living birth parents!!
It's interesting how the media spins things in such a way that sometimes you're outraged without even thinking about it. I admit it, when I first read that Madonna was adopting a child who had a living biological father and that she should have adopted a "true" orphan, I was taken aback and outraged for a moment as well... yeah, what is she doing, how odd the child has a bio father...ummm...then I stopped for a minute to think and guess what, many, if not most of adopted children DO have living birth parents so the fact that Madonna's child has a living parent is really not the big deal the media is trying to make it and pretty much the norm...of course, the media is hounding this man and trying to convince us otherwise!
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I posted similar thoughts on my site. For years people have been growing their families through adoption, for years famous people have been adopting. It is only the media that has recently made such a hoopla of the most recent adoptions.
Exactly, Julie. I'm not a big Madonna fan, but we really have no idea of the circumstances of this adoption. Therefore I also have no opinion on it. And like you say, MANY adopted children have living parents. Good point.
All so true! I really don't know why people would want my opinion on this subject either, I've been asked a few times about my thoughts etc....I'm definately no expert. In my own simplistic way though, I think it's great! What's bad about a child being offered a better life, especially one where he WILL actually live and be loved.
Debbie
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